Everything we do comes down to making a choice. At times those choices come from collecting and processing data. At times they come from a feeling, intuition or emotion. I believe we are at our best when our decisions integrate both deliberation and emotion. Decisions are often fluid because we change and circumstances change. The constant is our commitment to the process. Commitment requires an awareness of how we make those decisions.
When I first came across the quote from Jerzey Gregorek I wanted to argue with his premise – not all choices have to be hard to make an easy life. Later I realized I missed his point. A hard choice means there is something we know needs changing (emotional/intuitive) but are fearful of the outcome, perhaps because a lack of information (data). An easier life comes as we trust our commitment to our process. Doing the same thing over and over may appear to be easy but it eventually leaves us less flexible when change is needed creating a harder life.
Making a hard choice does not mean you must be tough as nails. It can mean allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to admit you don’t know the answer and ask for help. Although an easy life can also be a simple life most of us live in a complex, ever changing world. Looking at our options with awareness can help a complex world be easier and more livable.
As always I appreciate your thoughts and opinions.
Thanks to Jerzey Gregorek for his permission to use his quote. He can be reached at www.thehappybody.com
Dr. William Madosky