How many times have you used or heard the phrase: “not bad for someone my age?” Frequently would be my guess, especially the older you become. Recently I had a discussion with my wife Sharon about aging, exercise and our expectations for ourselves as we grow older. During that conversation, we talked about the difference between the phrases: “for my age” and “at my age.”
When we used “for my age,” it felt like we were comparing ourselves to some set of expectations of what life should be. “At my age,” felt like a more honest assessment of where we stand today. “At my age“ allowed us to be more creative about aging without the burden of expectations, which are often created by someone trying to sell us something. I believe it is a subtle but very important difference.
So, I urge you to try this experiment. First, describe yourself using “for my age.” Then try it again using “at my age.” Do you feel a difference? Let me know.
Yours in good health – at my age.